Let me preface this by saying, I'm not working some swirly girly thrill ride over recent events here, I'm just rambling..
Do first kisses rule, or do they RULE?*
TW - we dated shortly before I graduated. We met in the Tavern (but let's not hold that against him - he was in the tavern, but he wasn't a Tavernite, know what I'm sayin?) casually, he was a friend of a friend then one night he came up to me and said "I've decided to take up stalking - I was wondering if I could have your phone number and address" (to this day I think that's been my best pick up line ever). We went out shortly after and had drinks. He lived out in Winchester, a bit of a drive from Baltimore at the time, so even tho it was a first date, I told him he could crash at my place (despite all my bawdy drunken chat here in the Rock Haus, I'll let you know that Miss Lis doesn't just give it away) since he was a bit sotted and I didn't want him to drive. With the way I kept house at the time there was no other place for him to sleep except in my bed, so after a joking "try anything and I'll crack your skull" laying down of the rules, we lay down and went to sleep. He was a complete gentleman, going no further than taking my hand. The next morning when we were getting up he kissed me for the first time. I was all swirly for the rest of the day. he showed up that evening when I was working guard duty at the college centre, and told me he'd been thinking of me all day and he just wanted to come and see me and make sure we were on the same page.
SH - when I first met him I thought he was the biggest asshole I'd ever met...he was a friend of one of the members of my little circle at the time, and started hanging out with us all regularly. I came to realise he wasn't an asshole, he was just extremely blunt, and most times, hysterical when doing it. he walked me home one night, and at my door asked if he could kiss me. I of course opted to take the coy "Do you *want to kiss me*?" route...this evolved into an all night discussion. Finally when the sun was coming up he asked me again "so, I'm really tired, but I still really want to kiss you - can I kiss you?" again I asked him "Do you *want to kiss me*?"...He rolls his eyes and starts in on a tirade about "If I didn't want to kiss you would I have sat here all night..." I grabbed him and kissed him.
JG** - we had a couple of photo classes together and he also worked as a guard.. I'd never really noticed him until one day in class during a crit he made a remark about instant coffee that I just thought was hilarious...so a stalking I went. I started chatting with him (when he was working - so he couldn't run away - rather prophetic of my future in stalking bartenders) then we started hanging out "to go take pictures together"...finally one night I just invited him to come round my place and drink beer....He was cripplingly shy, so I knew I'd have to loosen him up somehow...he came over and we spent half the night on my roof, drinking rolling rock, and throwing 45's like Frisbee's at people walking on the street below (I had a huge stack of really crap 45's that a friend had gotten from a scrapped jukebox, and yes, I know, it's not nice to throw 45's at people walking down the street) still, despite my giving all the signals, but not the spine to just do it myself, he didn't try anything...as he was leaving, we were standing in my kitchen, and doing that god awful awkward "we know we like each other but we're both such complete pussies we're just gonna stand here and do the um er this was fun yeah we should do this again" thing...FINALLY, he gives me the most awkward hug in the world, and kissed me on the forehead. Then he asked me "You seein' anyone?",
"No" I replied
"Wanna hang out?" (in his defence - 19 year old skater boy we're talking about here)
"Yeah"
Then he kissed me for real.
There have since been other rather lovely and memorable kisses since then (Reader: well I would hope so Miss Lis - all these kisses happened 10 years ago!) but these are a few of the ones that were outstanding.
*Not always of course - sometimes the only thing you gain from a first kiss is the knowledge that under NO circumstances will there be a second one.
**He turned out to be a real piece of work who broke my heart in a million different ways, but that night is still a warm and fuzzy memory for me..
I have no idea why I wrote this entry, but since I did - I felt I may as well share.
Reader: Awwwwwwwww - Miss Lis you sentimental fool you
Miss Lis: FUCK OFF.